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Trusting My Cheating Partner Again? 
My partner does not trust me, despite all my efforts to empty my life of reasons why (she has my phone passwords, I've removed other females from my social …

Is My Boyfriend's Friendship REALLY platonic?... 
My boyfriend has a long-standing frienship with a woman that worries me. He spends a lot of time with her. Helps her our whenever she's in trouble. Has …

Why Do I Emotionally Abuse Women? 
Recently, I've noticed a pattern of behaviour in my relationships with women. I start to find fault with them, and feel the need to 'improve' them when …

Is My Man Mean With His Money? 
I'm in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend. He makes more money than me, much more, but we always go halves on everything. (And he only bought me …

Relationship Difficulties - Help! 
My relationship question is simple: how do my boyfriend and I make our relationship work, and move past our difficulties. Right now, he knows he's hurt …

Why Won't He Make Love To Me? 
From not being able to keep our hands off each other, my boyfriend and I hardly have sex now, just 5 months later. Even though he tells me he loves me, …

About Emotional Abuse? 
We argue all the time, and don't seem to bring the best out of each other. He blames me for it, and I blame him. Honestly, though, I don't know why he's …

Is She Cheating? 
I'm looking for some online relationship advice my girlfriend. I looked at her phone, TWICE, without her knowing and saw interactions/photos with other …

How Can I Make My Ex Boyfriend Choose Me Again? 
My relationship question is this: How do I make my 'complicated' on-off relationship with my ex-boyfriend work? Both of us have deep feelings for each …

My Open Relationship Conundrum 
I'm in a long-time open relationship where we've both decided that talking about our infidelities is unwise. But I found out about one of my wife's affairs, …

Overcoming Sexual Insecurity 
Help I feel insecure in sex, sometimes, but I think my boyfriend is not making it easy for me too, comparing me to his other lovers... "Your Relationship …

Choosing the Right Man 
Hmm, the online relationship advice I'm looking for is simply to get help with a (nice) choice I have to make, fairly soon: which man is for me? Can you …

Is He Cheating? 
My long-distance relationship isn't that much fun, anymore. Sex is on his terms. He doesn't seem to want to spend any quality time with me. He doesn't …

How Do I Regain His Trust? 
I've just started dating a man. 3 years ago (just after his divorce) he was stalked by 2 women, so is now very sensitive to being stalked. This is the …

My Girl-friend's One-Night Stand!... 
My girlfriend had 'sexual relations' with a friend of mine, 6 months before we met. And, hard as I try, I just can't stop thinking about it. It riles me …

Partner Or Mistress?... 
I can't believe it, but I'm in a classic quandary of deciding between my partner and my lover - both of whom I love dearly. I am torn, and really don't …

Online Dating Dilemma 
I've met this guy online. We hit it off. But when it comes to dating, and meeting up, he just wants to come round to my house, or for me to come round …

Why Am I Still Single? 
Heterosexual man can't work women out. He's a "man's man" but still women think he comes across as 'needy'. What's wrong with women, anyway - they always …

Self-Esteem and Relationships 
I love my boyfriend and the great connection we have, but I hate my low self esteem and how it makes me behave in the relationship. I'm just so jealous. …

Getting Past Resentment?... 
My 10 year relationship started getting difficult 4 years ago when my partner became a drug addict . During this time I had our baby, I bought a house, …

Should I Leave Him? 
I seem to being blamed for the behaviour of my partner's ex-wife (and child). They take advantage of him, and I get the blame. What should I do?... …

Online Cheating! 
I don't trust my husband. And every time I check his mobile phone or email, I find out he's making inappropriate contact with random women or with women …

Can I Trust Him?... 
I've got trust issues, due to stuff that happened in the past. So, because of something my (very loving) boyfriend nearly did a while back with a woman …

Will This Man Commit To Me? 
I'm struggling with my uncommitted boyfriend. I've got a 5 year old child, and am really looking for stability, whereas I feel my boyfriend is going to …

Get My Ex Back?... 
I'm after some classic relationship advice online - I want to get my ex back. I've got cancer and the worry of not seeing her is affecting my health... …

Should I Be Worried?... 
My question is about trust in relationships - I'm a bit shocked that my partner doesn't trust herself to stay the night with an ex- of hers (now a friend). …

My Problems With His Children 
I'm in a relationship with an amazing man; I could even go to say he is perfect for me - wow! But, I really don't like his ex-wife, and his children remind …

Sex, My Wife, and Me... 
Sex with my wife (of 22 years) has been steady, rather than fantastic, but now - after my vasectomy (at her request) - sex has more or less stopped. 12 …

Problems With My Boyfriend's Family 
It seems my boyfriend's family don't seem to like me. Even a new girlfriend of my boyfriend's brother seems to want to interfere in our relationship, to …

Sex is Drifting Away 
Our sex-life is fading, badly. It started out pretty good, but 8 years of our marriage later, my wife doesn't even want me to talk about sex - she just …

My Boyfriend and my Daughter 
My boyfriend loves me and loves my daughter from another relationship, but he also doesn't seem ready to settle down, yet (we're both 23). I'm not sure …

Friends With Benefits? #2 
Why does a man gently caress my face when making love?... "Your Relationship Questions, Your Answers!" QUESTION: Does my 'friends with benefits' love …

Confusing Relationship Signals...  
I've been hanging out with this guy for some time now, and I really enjoy his company, really like him. I think he likes me too - we even kiss. But when …

My Best Friend and I... 
I love spending time with my best friend, a man. In fact, I love him and I think I'd like more from our relationship - think he would too! But then I'm …

From Friendship to Relationship? 
I've known "John" a long time, I like him a lot. For various reasons we've always just been friends. Well, at the end of my last relationship (which turned …

What Do I Do? 
I'm separating from my husband, who had an affair. A few months ago I met this lovely man, we kissed, and I think he likes me even though he knows about …

Help, He Fears Commitment! 
I've been dating this man, on and off for 9 months. He can't seem to commit to me because of the breakup of his (30 year) marriage, recently, due to her …

Respect in Relationships... 
I can't work out why I keep on wanting to break up with this man. I'm thinking it might be because I don't respect him. But he's a good man, makes me laugh …

My "Alpha Male" Boyfriend... 
My on-off relationship of 3 years struggles because my man wants to be the head of the house - the alpha male - and I struggle to be controlled like this. …

Boyfriend blowing hot and cold 
My boyfriend blows hot and cold with me. But most of all he complains about how I communicate with him. And he'd leave me immediately given the chance. …

Intimacy Issues After Marriage 
My wife and I have a dysfunctional sex-life - she doesn't seem to 'like' sex. I've put up with it for a while, but now I'm finding myself not wanting to …

Friends With Benefits? 
I spend all my time with this man, love hanging out with him and having sex with him... everything a couple does we do, and more! But we're just friends …

Getting Over My First Love! 
I loved my boyfriend of 2 years so much but my parents interfered and made it impossible for us. So as soon as I was able I rebelled and married another …

What's Right, What's Wrong?... 
I keep on choosing the wrong men. And even now, whilst I struggle at work, I'm also thinking about my last ex-, my last wrong man, and I want to get in …

My Girlfriend's Plastic Surgery (and Me)! 
My girlfriend had plastic surgery a few years before meeting me, and she just recently told me this. It makes me feel concerned about her insecurity re …

Is Life A B*tch? 
I called this woman I was dating the b** word, one evening when I was really angry with how she was treating me. And now she won't even talk to me, despite …

Jealous... Controlling... Angry! 
I love my boyfriend of 2 years and he loves me. But he's controlling, and doesn't seem to trust me. This used to be okay, but now I want to live my own …

My Husband, Desire, and I 
I love my husband, but I'm getting tired of not feeling desire by him, and my thoughts of getting a divorce never seem to go away. Is it selfish of me …

Commitment Issues? 
I'm in the longest relationship I've ever been in - 2 years - but it's not getting any stronger, we're not getting any closer. I want him to commit more …

Did I Over-React? 
We went out on New Year's Eve, and I'd made a real effort with how I looked. Despite my looking fine in my boyfriend's eyes, he could not help making comments …

My Insecure Girlfriend Problem 
My new relationship is over before it's begun, all because my girlfriend is insecure, doesn't feel enough for me. Yes, I was perhaps too eager but now …

My Girlfriend Dilemma 
I no longer find my girlfriend attractive. I used to but she's started to eat badly and not exercise. She's not fat, but she's not skinny either and the …

Me, Him, Her... and Her Boyfriend 
I had a baby with my boyfriend when I was 15. At the same time he cheated on me with another woman, who also had his baby. Now we're still together, and …

Moving On From Boyfriend? 
I love my boyfriend and he loves me, a lot. But I can't help thinking that I'd like to date other guys, like to experience being single - he's my first …

My Sick Boyfriend... Help! 
I'm just out of my marriage and ready to have fun. My new boyfriend (of 3 months) is now sick, and I'm more of a carer than a girlfriend. I don't like …

My Husband And I 
What do I do with my husband who is so impulsive when it comes to spending money. He buys things without thinking, then blames me when it doesn't work …

Leaving My Girlfriend ? 
Eli thinks his girlfriend really likes another man. And despite the fact he asked her about this, and she denied it, he's still worried. What to do?... …

Staying Together (Or Not)? 
I have always wanted to get married, have children. But it seems my long-term boyfriend is in no hurry to do the same. Should I be patient, or should I …

Trust, Insecurity and Ex's 
I fell deeply in love with a man - and he with me - before I realised he was still seeing another woman. We ended, and then that relationship ended, and …

Complicated Boy-Girl Stuff! 
This boy I really like seems to like me back, but never enough to actually go out with me and I'm a bit confused. What should I do?... "Relationships …

Boyfriend Says I Drive Him Crazy 
My boyfriend says I drive him crazy and I try my best not to and I love him so much, but I just don't know what else to do. We have long distance relationship …

Responsible and Adult (Please)... 
I can do relationships at work and can relate with my child, but when it comes to my relationship with my husband... It seems I am quite unreasonable with …

Husband Left Me 
My husband has just left me for a younger woman. He's going through all our money, and really doesn't look happy. I'm trying to move, but can't. Can anyone …

My Boyfriend's Ex... 
I'm in a relationship with a great guy. I don't think I could ask for more, actually, apart from the fact that he keeps on talking about his ex, and I'd …

My Defensive Self... 
Me and my boyfriend argue. Too much. He really knows how to press my buttons. But then I'm defensive too much, also, especially when criticised. We both …

Finding The ONE? 
I'm tired of meeting guys who don't really want to commit. My last boyfriend is a classic, and typical, example. One day we're planning to move in together, …

My Boyfriend's Mother's Prejudice... 
My boyfriend's Mom doesn't like me. And she's never liked me. The reason: I'm Asian and he (and she) are white. What, if anything, can I do here?... …

Stay In My Marriage?... 
I think my husband is having an affair with his business partner. (All because of him getting convicted of a traffic violation when she was the passenger.) …

Why This and Why Me? 
After my on-off relationship with a man who I loved one minute and hated the next, I've now found a man who treats me like the princess I am. But he's …

Questions About Boyfriends 
My boyfriend gave me the same (sweet, thoughtful) gift he gave his ex, and it's really hurt me, and I'm not sure what to do about this!... "Relationships …

Depression in Relationships 
My girlfriend of 9 months told me she suffers from depression, and she's suffering from it right now. Because of this she doesn't seem to want me to be …

Friend or More? 
I'm looking for some online relationship advice about me and my girl friend (who has a boyfriend). We are very close. We flirt with each other a lot, lots …

Honesty in Relationships 
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, but we broke up for 6 months and during that time I slept with someone else. I haven't told my boyfriend, because …

Widowed, Befriended, "Seduced", Then Dumped! 
10 months after being widowed I met another widower, a man, and we quickly connected via our mutual loss. We soon became lovers. But just as he was about …

Relationship Boundaries? 
My girlfriend wants to go on a road trip (through work) with a man who openly has a crush on her. I'd like her not to go, but she thinks I'm being controlling. …

Going Back or Moving On? 
My marriage has never been a good one - my husband was 'neglectful' - and I stayed until our youngest was 18. But now, some years later, I'm conflicted …

Cheated On Boyfriend... 
I have a question about restoring trust in relationships - I cheated on my boyfriend, and I want him to trust me again. But so far he can't (1 year later), …

Classic Boy-Girl Stuff! 
I really liked this girl from my class, but never did anything about it. Now she doesn't have a boyfriend I'm interested again, but don't know what to …

Leaving My Fiance? 
For some unknown reason my fiance seems to have closed his heart to me. Our once passionate relationship has now been reduced to early morning and late …

My Cheating Girlfriend! 
My long-distance girlfriend cheated on me with an in-law. And she'd do it again if we weren't together. Trouble is, they live with each other right now, …

Am I Being Childish? 
My partner's ex-wife ignores me, never invites me to shared social events or anything. This is fine, but now she wants to drive my partner to the airport …

Classic Boy Meet Girl STUFF! 
I really like this girl, and she likes me - but we're just friends, even though we love each other and say so. I'd like more, but the girl says to 'cool …

Husband Participating Socially 
My husband is sociable, but more often than not he decides not to join me and the family in many of our social gatherings. Either he does household chores …

Can I Love Him? 
I'm being pressured to marry someone. It started before I even met the man. It's not as if we get on that well together. What should I do? "Relationships …

Deciding Between Wife and Lover... 
I've been married a long time. I've also had a lover most of that time too. I love both women, but - ideally! - I wish I could leave my wife, but I can't. …

How Relationships Really Work? 
This relationship question is bit different, as it's really an assessment of how relationships work, or how John thinks they work, and it comes in response …

Importance of Sex in Relationships... 
The relationship advice online I'm looking for involves what to do with a long-term relationship where sex is becoming an issue again. It more or less …

Relationships... Control... Suicide... 
How to deal with controlling relationships... in my case my ex- is threatening to kill herself if I move on with my life. Help!... "Relationships Q&A …

Other People's Relationships... 
What do you think to my friend's relationship dilemma. She's happily married, but there's no intimacy, so she's found it elsewhere, secretly, with a man …

DOES She Like Me? 
I like her and I know she likes me, but I need her to tell me that she likes me, give me permission to ask her out and she won't. We used to be really …

Partner Let Me Down? 
First my partner of 12 years leaves me, out of the blue, and then my brother dies days later - I have to turn off his life-support system. Surely I should …

Help With Codependent Relationship 
I'd like to ask for help from your relationship advice forum, help regarding a co-dependent relationship between my Mom and my sister. My boyfriend could …

My Gambling Problem... 
My gambling problem got the better of me and I stole from my (now) ex... TWICE! The second time was one time too many times and she left me. She wanted …

Why Boyfriend 'Hiding' Me? 
Why isn't my boyfriend introducing me to his family and friends? It makes me wonder how serious he is about our relationship, makes me think of breaking …

Limits of Lesbian Love? 
I need help with my fem to fem relationship. I love my girlfriend so much, but both of us have conformed into heterosexual relationships, and both getting …

My Cheating Wife? 
My wife has started behaving 'oddly', ever since she told me she loved me but was not in love with me. I do question her behaviour - a page on Adult Friend …

No Closeness In Relationship 
There is no closeness in my relationship with my long-term and newly divorced friend. His ex-wife cheated on him badly, but he blames me for our lack of …

My Messy Relationship? 
I broke up with someone to start a relationship with a woman that also broke up with her man. Bit messy, yes, but there was no 'overlap'. Or so I thought, …

Reunion with Ex-Girlfriend? 
Can some women help me with this relationship question I have about briefly 'hooking up' with my ex-, even though she's really into me and I don't want …

Trusting Husband... Again! 
My husband has cheated on me. He says he's sorry, and considers himself a fool to have done it, but still... I'm not sure if I can trust him anymore... …

Love, Trust... And Money! 
My long-term relationship is in jeopardy over money, trust, and poor communication. And I'm not sure what to do about it... "Relationships Q&A with …

NSA with Ex... 
My relationship with ex- was great apart from what happened in the bedroom. So we broke up, and stopped contacting each other. Until, out of the blue, …

Friendship to Relationship Transition 
Online relationship advice needed please as I don't know what to do with a long-term male friend who's been interested in me for a long time. I'm now single, …

Feelings For My Ex 
My relationship question is this: why am I still thinking about my first love, when our 'not so great' relationship ended 3 years ago, and am I right to …

How To Ask A Boy Out 
I've got a basic boy-girl question here, but still need the wisdom of a relationship advice forum. So, I like him, but I don't know if he likes me - what …

Sharing Costs in Relationship... 
I'm looking for relationship advice online regarding money, and what costs are fair to share and what are not. I believe in sharing, but there are limits …

Christian and Non Christian Relationship 
Can a relationship work between Christian and non-Christian? I love this woman, but I believe her Christian faith might get in the way of our relationship. …

My Distant Girlfriend 
My relationship questions all relate to the fact that my girlfriend seems distant with me, and I want to know why. I'm looking for some online relationship …

My Cheating Man... 
Help me, I'm confused! I'm breaking up with a cheater, and found someone I can trust, but I still feel awful - feelings of guilt, etc. - I just want to …

My On-Off Relationship -- Help! 
I really need help with my on-off relationship. Why doesn't he treat me properly? Why do we keep getting back together? Help, please... "Relationships …

Long Distant Relationship? 
Do long distance relationships work? I just don't know what to do with my 'love and moving far away' situation - please help!... "Relationships Q&A …

Boyfriend's Commitment Phobia? 
I need help in my on-off relationship with my boyfriend; I need him to commit to our relationship as I want a family and time is running out for me... …

Me and My Boyfriends... 
I love my ex-boyfriend more than my current boyfriend. What should I do about it, if anything?... "Relationships Q&A with You, Me and Paula Renaye" …

Long Distance Relationships 
I'm looking for some long distance relationships advice, specifically how to prepare for my relationship becoming a long distance relationship. Can anyone …

His Lying Is Breaking Us Up 
My boyfriend lies to me about his drinking. All I want him to do is stop lying, rather than stop drinking, but now he feels pressured by me so much so …

Is He Cheating On Me? 
I'd like some help with my relationship with my man, especially as it seems to be being played out a little on Facebook. I'm suspicious of his contact …

My Doubts and Insecurities 
I am in a great relationship with a GREAT man, and yet I cannot let go of his past - the past he spent with his wife, and the past that existed after her …

Single or Relationship? 
I'm a bit confused, tired of being in relationships that don't work out, and fearful of getting hurt again. But, despite all this, I'm also tired of being …

Should My Ex Be Mad? 
My on-off relationship with my ex- of 3 years just turned nasty. He found out I slept with someone else - whilst we weren't seeing each other - and now …

Does He Love Me? 
I'm looking for some online relationship advice re my closest friend, who is male. I've fallen in love with him, and I'm not sure what to do about it... …

Dazed & Confused 
My on-off on-off relationship with my boyfriend just got MORE complicated as he got a woman pregnant recently (when I thought we were 'off for good'), …

My Friendship Troubles 
My friendship with someone is changing in a way that I don't like - now we hardly seem to see each other, and when I ask if anything's up I get an irritated …

Confused With Boys 
I've just started dating and boy am I confused! And this confusion is starting to affect my life - my grades are dropping, at school. So I'm looking for …

Why Am I Being So Selfish? 
I am not very successful in relationships, and I know why: I want a lot, and give a little. Relationships terrify me, actually. Please help... "Relationships …

My Marriage is Ending 
My low self-esteem has finally hijacked my marriage, and my wife now wants to end our 27 year relationship. What can I do to stop this?... "Relationships …

How To Ask A Girl Out 
My online relationship advice is quite simple, really, I just want to know how to asking someone out for the first time. Any and all tips welcome... …

Husband to Help Around the House? 
The online relationship advice I am looking for is something I think many wives would also like to know the answer to: how do I get him to help around …

Why Did He Do That? 
I broke up from my first ever relationship over something silly. When we got back together again 2 weeks later I found out that he'd started seeing someone …

My Boyfriend Confusion 
"Relationships Q&A with You, Me and Paula Renaye" QUESTION: Why does my boyfriend not trust me?... MORE FROM APRIL... My long-distance relationship …

My Husband's Email Affair 
I believe my husband is having an email affair. But when I challenged him he denied it. But I didn't believe him, and when I read his emails (behind his …

My Husband 'Knows Best' 
My question is about, broadly speaking, how to deal with controlling relationships. In my case, my husband seems to want to control, via the decisions …

Is My Boyfriend Lying? 
I'm looking for some online relationship advice, and my relationship question is about trust. Specifically, it's about my boyfriend and whether he's telling …

Sex and My Boyfriend 
Clare is frustrated with her new boyfriend (who happens to be blind) - he just doesn't seem interested in having sex with her, despite all her attempts …

Co-dependency and Relationships 
Hanson knows a lot about co-dependent relationships (as you'll see). Still, in his relationship question he wants to know how to recognise co-dependent …

Paula's Biggest Relationship Mistake 
My relationship story includes many common 'wrong turns': doing what others expect of you; believing you have no choices; thinking that relationships are …

My Biggest Relationship Mistake 
Okay, let me start this relationship advice forum off with a look at my own relationship problems over the years. This is my question, then... "Relationships …