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Anger Management Tips from Trevor and Me. (Do You Agree?)

"It's important to manage your anger and not control it."

• That's what Trevor Johnson says in his anger management tips (see below).
  
  
• And this applies to those who 'lose it' all the time to those of us who never get angry (uh-oh!) - to all of us, then!

See if you agree with Trevor and let us know what you think too.

Tips For Anger Management

What I say...

As some of my friends know only too well, I am not a fan of anger, especially the 'holding onto anger' variety that the Buddha talks about:

"Holding onto anger is like grasping onto a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else.
You are the one who gets burned."
– Buddha

You see, I rarely get angry. Which sounds like a good thing, but - until I become the Zen Monk I aspire to be(!), and experience enlightenment in my every waking moment - it isn't! I need to express my anger, appropriately, when I feel it.

(And some might argue, though not Trevor, that this is controlling anger - I'm not sure!)

Yes, I do realise that anger happens in life, from time time to time, for all of us - it just does! And it's really how we deal with that anger, how we express it, that is most important. Pretending not to be angry, like I sometimes do, is not an anger management tip that I recommend.

Thank goodness we have Trevor's anger management wisdom below.

What Trevor Johnson has to say...

Trevor notes that not all of us are ready to admit that we have an anger problem - one that can only be fixed by attending an anger management class. However, Trevor believes that unmanaged anger can damage personal relationships and can also contribute to social breakdown (millions have anger issues, it seems), so he offers us 3 anger management tips to save the day:

1. Analyze the objective of your anger;
2. Ask yourself if the person intentionally tried to anger you;
3. Don't vent

Maybe you have your own tips or techniques to managing your anger. If so, do let us know!

Until then, it's over to Trevor (as voiced by me)...

Anger management tips - what these recommended resources say...

• "For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind."
  – Ralph Waldo Emerson.
  
  
• "A man is about as big as the things that make him angry"
  – Winston Churchill
  
  
• Similarly, "To be angry is to suffer"
  – Guy Finley